Life seems like a roller coaster of ‘ups’ and ‘downs’… ‘bad times’ and ‘good times’.
Why can’t everything just be easy and the good times last?
Everything in life is temporary, the good times don’t last, but neither do the bad!
Why must we suffer?
A lot of the time you will find suffering comes from our MIND. We create our own suffering through the perspective of the experience. If you are identifying an experience as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ you are determining how you feel. A change in perspective can make the ‘dark times’ in our lives the most rewarding times.
As difficult as it feels, the dark times are ESSENTIAL for our time here on Earth. We are here to learn, to evolve, to grow. If everything was easy all of the time, what would be the point of life?
There is no such thing as an ‘easy’ life, EVERYONE experiences hard times no matter what their circumstances. We are all one and equal beyond all of the illusions of separation.
So how do we use these dark times to help us grow instead of feeling like all is lost and giving up?
ACKNOWLEDGE HOW YOU FEEL
The first and most important step to healing is to honour how you feel.
We’ve all been there ‘I’m fine’ ‘Nothing’s wrong’ … although I encourage focusing on the positive and speaking positive words. Denying your feelings is different! It is essential to RELEASE, whether that’s speaking out loud to yourself, speaking to a loved one or writing down how you feel. This takes a huge ‘weight’ from our mind and allows us to move forward to find a solution.
Healing can only happen from WITHIN. Anything outside of yourself will only be temporary to ‘cover up’ how you feel inside. So forget about buying a new handbag, or getting a new boyfriend. If treating yourself lifts your spirits as a form of self love, then definitely do it! But it is not the solution! This is only avoiding facing yourself, when you should come FIRST. Knowledge and love of yourself is essential for life. Don’t avoid it! Get to know and love the beautiful, amazing being that you are!
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
It is so important to be kind to YOURSELF! Stop beating yourself up, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself! This is an essential part of healing, Blaming yourself and negative self talk is the worst thing you can do! You will always be YOU! So be kind to yourself, you listen to your thoughts so make sure they are beautiful, positive and encouraging! Take some time for yourself, have a relaxing bath, make yourself feel good, treat yourself, read a book etc! Whatever makes you FEEL GOOD! Whatever you do, don’t stay in your bed feeling sorry for yourself! Giving yourself love and feeling sorry for yourself are completely different things! As harsh as it sounds literally force yourself to do things that make you happy, as simple as listening to your favourite music, watching your favourite movie, spending time with your best friend! Get into nature, exercise, eat healing foods! (i.e fruits and vegetables) drink lots of water, stay hydrated! RAISE YOUR VIBRATION!
Resisting something and thinking about how much you don’t want it, actually gives it MORE POWER! Research the life changing ‘Law of attraction’ . Switch your focus! You get what you focus on, so focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want! You hold the power to create your reality, and that power is within your attention, change your perspective to change your life. Gratitude is the best way to change your energy, focus on what you are thankful for, we all have something no matter how ‘small’ it may seem, just be grateful you are breathing! Feel gratitude for every bit of your life. ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. Life is about balance and contrast will always exist, so think of the contrast as showing you what you don’t want, then you can give more energy to what you do want!
LOOK FOR THE LESSON
In my experience since my spiritual awakening, I have had many times of darkness. I now realise these times of darkness and depression are healing times that allow me to EVOLVE. Every time I have felt low and felt like giving up I have experienced breakthroughs that have allowed me to move forward. I have had so many of these experiences that I look at myself over the months and truly see how much I’ve evolved. Every time I heal, I get closer to my truest and greatest self in order to live my true life purpose.
Take a step back and try to understand what you are being taught from this experience. What feelings are coming up for you that don’t feel good?
Even write down how you feel so that you can look at it and realise what needs healing. Most of the time it leads back to self love! A book I highly recommend is called ‘The Mastery of Love’ by Don Miguel Ruiz. It truly helped me love myself and stop looking outside of myself for love or approval and understand life more.
Now that I realise what’s happening it’s like being in a video game and picking up the clues to get to the next level. My ‘higher self’ tells me the message and then its up to ME to ACT on it! No action, no result! Sometimes I go through the same lessons over and over until I take action on them and move forward. You will find this happening through life, we will be sent the same lesson in many different ways until we learn.
It can feel so tempting and ‘comfortable’ to stay in that dark place and feel sorry for yourself, but you MUST keep moving FORWARD! Do things that make you happy! Push yourself through to LEARN and that’s when you’ll get your breakthrough and BAM! You’ve evolved! And you’ll keep leaning and growing, and that’s the beautiful thing about life. We can never stop GROWING!
I hope this post helps you! Here are some books and speakers I recommend for inspiration and motivation:
- ‘The Mastery of Love’ by Don Miguel Ruiz
- ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz
- ‘The Power of Now’ by Eckhart Tolle
- Abraham Hicks
- Infinite Waters
YOU GOT THIS! KEEP GOING! I BELIEVE IN YOU! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!
Peace, love and light,