So in the past couple of weeks I have been in The Sun newspaper and interviewed by the lovely Ewan Cameron for the “Live At Five” show on STV2, talking about my debut book “How To Be A Fucking Unicorn” and also (more controversially) my belief that I Am an “alien”.
I just wanted to speak about this on my own website so that I can make clear my intentions and feelings…
I Am proud to live fully in my truth. Whether people “believe” me or support me or not, is nothing to do with me! I do not take anything personally anymore, because I know who I Am, and that is all that matters!
In life there will always be “haters” “naysayers”, people criticising you. It will happen no matter what you do, whether you are the nicest, kindest person in the world, or the opposite. People will ALWAYS have something to say, and so they should! We all have our own opinions and there’s nothing humans love more than making their opinions known! That’s absolutely cool with me! I know that by living and speaking my truth, I will connect with the beings that are meant to connect with me. The only way I can give my best and help others, is by being myself and that is exactly what I intend to do on my time on Planet Earth.
A few years ago if you would have told me I would think I’m an Alien, have dreadlocks and wrote a book to help people be their true selves, I wouldn’t have believed you! I was too busy trying to fit in and be like “everyone else” so that I was accepted. I no longer need to be accepted, the only person that needs to accept me is ME! It’s the same for you, believe in and love YOURSELF! You are only every going to be you for this life. It would be a shame to waste the magical, incredible being that you are, by trying to be something else so that others accept you!
Give love to those who send you the opposite, don’t let it bother you! Everyone has their own perspective of life, we are all living completely different lives and that is why it’s so important to stay true to YOURSELF! You are the only person that sees life through your eyes, others don’t have to understand your journey, it’s only for you to understand!
I will keep shining my light and being my truest self. I feel blessed that I have opporunities to spread the message of love, peace and self expression through the media to reach a large amount of people, no matter the respeonse I get, I know my intentions and I want to help as many as I possibly can and the media is an amazing way to connect to more people to remind them how amazing they are. We are truly limitless! I just want everyone to live their best possible life, because it is so precious. I want to make the biggest difference in the world I possibly can with my life, I can only do that by being me.
So, even if you have made fun of me, I want to tell you that I think you are AMAZING, and I hope you stay true to YOURSELF.
‘When you were born, everyone assured you that you could do, have and be anything you wanted when you grew up. So, now that you’ve grown up, are you doing, having and being anything and everything you’ve ever wanted? Or somewhere along the way, did you redefine ‘anything’ and ‘everything’ to include settling for less than you truly want?’ – ‘The Miracle Morning’ By Hal Elrod
When we were young we knew what we wanted to be, or do in life. We had no doubt in our mind, no second thought. Our imagination ran wild, we knew ANYTHING was possible.
Then what happened?
Other people told us who to be, and then we settled for less than what we truly want.
ALL of us wanna live our greatest lives. Within our careers, our relationships, our finances, our health. None of us want average, but some of us accept average because they forget that YOU create your reality. You do not have to settle, settling is a choice, no matter the circumstances, you can ALWAYS do what you BELIEVE you can.
Don’t let fear take over, just DO IT. Believe and trust, KNOW that you will achieve your goals and don’t stop until you do.
LIFE IS THERE TO BE TRULY LIVED.
Here are some steps that WILL help you achieve your dreams. All YOU have to do, is DO IT. Stay focused. Never, ever give up.
1. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
THE most important factor in achieving your goals. Know that there is and will only ever be one YOU. Your life is up to you and no one else. No one can tell you what you really want, only you know that. No one else can tell you how to live your life, you have a choice. Accept what others choose for your reality, or create your own. You must be confident within yourself and have no doubt that you will achieve your goals. If we love ourselves and believe in ourselves, then nothing anyone says will stop us. You do not have to live the life your parents want for you, or society says you should, or your teachers taught you, YOU CHOOSE YOUR LIFE.
SELF LOVE IS ESSENTIAL.
Encourage yourself, uplift yourself, motivate yourself. The person we speak to the most is ourselves so make sure you are saying kind things. Don’t be hard on yourself, CELEBRATE WHO YOU ARE. Celebrate all of your little wins, focus on all your positive aspects. Until you love every part of yourself that nothing can stop you.
Ways To Love Yourself: Stop people pleasing, treat yourself, speak affirmations every day i.e ‘I Am beautiful’ ‘I Am powerful’, do things that make you happy,wear what makes you feel good..
2. DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE ALONE
It’s quite possible that you may be the only person that believes in your dreams. You may not fit in, you may have a different mindset than others and feel like you are playing small to make others feel comfortable. It’s time to stop living to please others. Learn to say no. You must look after yourself first. Honor yourself. Don’t be afraid to let go of negative relationships, or situations that hold you back.
Only by spending time alone can you get to know yourself, can you truly love yourself and find your true life path. It’s blocking out the noise of everyone elses opinions and focusing on your own inner voice. To follow your dreams, you have to stop caring about what other people think. You’re not going to be here one day, so live for YOU.
No, it’s not easy to be alone, but it is worth it. Once you spend time alone, getting to know, love, heal and improve yourself, can you be the best version of yourself. Therefore achieving your dreams, and finding your ‘tribe’ that has the same vision as you, therefore being a TRUE connection and you can elevate and encourage each other.
3. FEEL GOOD NOW
The most important thing in life is to enjoy the NOW. Live in the present, appreciate the present. Be grateful for all you have, even if it’s as simple as breathing and being alive!Focus on what you have and not what you don’t have.
Whether you have achieved your dreams or not, this is still a precious day of your life!So look for things to be grateful for, focus on the positives. Find a way to live your dreams everyday, don’t wish your life away and wait for happiness. Happiness can be right NOW. It’s all about your perspective. Do the things that bring you joy!
EVERYTHING IS VIBRATION. You attract what you put out. So it is so important to FEEL GOOD NOW to attract your dreams into your life.
We want to achieve our dreams for the feeling that we will have when we achieve it. Happiness, joy, excitement, appreciation etc, so FEEL THAT NOW.
4. ACT AS IF
If you had your dreams right now, what would you be doing, saying, wearing, how would you be acting?
Recreate yourself into the person you want to be. Act as if you are this person until you are. IMAGINE THE GREATEST VERSION OF YOURSELF POSSIBLE, THAT’S WHO YOUR TRULY ARE.
The more you feel like you are living your dreams now, the quicker they will be attracted into your reality.
Find small ways to attract your dreams, for example if you dream of meeting a lover, take yourself on dates, buy an extra toothbrush. If you wish to travel, go on small adventures, take the bus to a random place, explore and try new things! Doing these things attract new feelings which attract your dreams.
5. LET GO
When you hold onto the past, you are not allowing new things to flow to you. You must release the past to move forward. This could be past situations, relationships, possessions etc.
CLEAR YOUR LIFE.
Release all that no longer serves you and your dreams. This may be painful but it allows you to grow. Thank the past and everything it taught you, but now it is time to move forward. The past no longer exists, there is no reason to still live there. Everyday is a new day and a new opportunity to grow.
6. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Your comfort zone can turn into your prison. If we are comfortable, we get lazy and start to procrastinate. TIME IS ALL WE HAVE, it must be used wisely.
Some people tiptoe through life, hoping to make it safely to death. Truth is, none of us are making it out alive, so what is the point in being comfortable?
PUSH YOURSELF to grow. There are no limits, keep learning new things, conquering fears, taking risks. Grow and grow, be better and better.
To follow your dreams you must have the courage to take a ‘risk’. That is how greatness is achieved, trust in your journey. Let go of fear, to do this we must conquer our fears one by one. BE GREAT.
Never see ‘mistakes’ or ‘failures’, there are only lessons. Every person, every experience is there to teach us. Grow from the setbacks, trust the detours. Everything happens for a reason and in the right time. Just keep trusting, keep moving forward, and learn from EVERYTHING.
7. STAY MOTIVATED AND INSPIRED
A positive mindset is ESSENTIAL for attracting your dreams.
Listen to motivational speakers, read inspiring books. The difference these simple things make in your perspective is incredible.
What we read, listen to, watch, all goes into our subconscious mind, which affects our reality and creates our everyday habits. You are in control of what you feed your subconscious mind, so choose to watch, read and listen to things that are in line with your dreams.
Have a mentor, even if it’s someone you don’t know or is not necessarily with you in person, I.E someone you look up to with similar gifts, a ‘hero’ of yours. Know that if they can do it, so can you! Take inspiration from them to remind you of your goals.
8. WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS
This is very important!
Write down your major goals for life, DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF. Use your imagination and write this list knowing that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Do not hesitate, write EXACTLY what you want. The more detail the better.
Personally I have a list of my biggest goals, then my year goals, five year goals etc. So I have made my big goals into smaller goals.
Set small goals for yourself everyday that are in line with your big goals. Each small goal you achieve helps you get to your bigger goal! Progress is progress no matter how small it may seem!
CREATE A VISION BOARD
A board of pictures and words that reflect your goals and the life you want to live. Cut out scraps of the place you want to live, the places you want to travel to, the car you want etc etc. And look at it EVERYDAY! Vision boards are so powerful! Put it somewhere where you will always see it, to keep you motivated!
Remember to always keep your words in the PRESENT tense when writing your goals
I AM AND I HAVE…
9. FOCUS ON THE END RESULT
Do not focus on ‘how’ you will get to your dreams. Know your end result and focus on that. Your dream can come into your life in many different ways, so do not get attached to a particular job, or opportunity, or partner. Be open to how your dreams will come to you, just keep moving forward.
Trust in your intuition to guide you to meet the right people, situations etc that will bring your dreams into your reality. Whenever you get an instinct to do something, or go somewhere, follow it! Take action on your instincts.
When you manifest your dreams, you have to meet the Universe halfway, by taking action and moving forward. Your intuition is your inner guidance to take you in the right direction!
10. CREATE DAILY HABITS
Focus on the 24 hours in front of you. If you have a big goal, don’t focus on how far it is from you, just use the day in front of you to be closer to where you want to be. If you have a job, make time in the morning or the evening that help you grow towards your goals. (The Miracle Morning is an incredible book to help you find time for your dreams even if you think you are too busy!)
Change your habits to change your life.
Get up earlier, meditate, exercise… MAKE POSITIVE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE
It takes 21 days to create new daily habits, so stay disciplined, it will be worth it!
11. KEEP GOING
This is probably the hardest part. Stay persistent! Stay focused!You MUST keep going! Never ever give up!
I always knew what I wanted. I always believed in following your dreams and living your greatest life. I have had a huge vision and definiteness of purpose ever since I can remember.
People would tell me, ‘You’ll never make it’ ,’You won’t do it, it’s not possible’, make fun or laugh when I told them my goals and what I wanted to do with my life.
For me, settling for an average life that you didn’t really want or care about made no sense. I’ve always wanted a life that sets my soul on fire. Passion, depth, purpose, ALIVENESS. I don’t even know if that’s a word, but it is now. You know why? Because we create our reality.
I always knew I was destined for something great, and believe we all are. That’s why I would get so frustrated when people would give up on their dreams, or think they were just for the ‘lucky ones’. Everywhere I see people settling, people pleasing, listening to others instead of their own soul. Following the crowd. It all comes back to FEAR, we all know this life is temporary, so why are we not making the most of it?TRULY LIVING. Being the greatest we can be.
“When you were born, everyone assured you that you could do, have and be anything you wanted when you grew up. So, now that you’ve grown up, are you doing, having and being anything and everything you’ve ever wanted? Or somewhere along the way, did you redefine ‘anything and everything’ to include settling for less than what you truly want?” – From ‘The Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod
We are here to follow our purpose, whether you realise it or not. we all know our true purpose deep down. It’s the things that make our soul light up, our escapism, something we do that makes us forget about everything else and just be in that moment. It’s our INNER CHILD. Think back to when you were a child, you KNEW ANYTHING WAS POSSIBLE, you dreamed BIG, you were happy, you LIVED IN THE MOMENT, you DIDN’T CARE WHAT ANYONE THOUGHT OF YOU, you were simply BEING.
And then along the way, we have been made to believe that we must ‘be like everyone else’ we must settle, we must suffer, our dreams are ‘impossible’.
It’s only impossible if you believe it so.
Your thoughts CREATE YOUR REALITY. If you believe it is so, then you create it so. You LIVE it.
I had lived the ‘Law of Attraction’ long before I read The Secret. The Secret reminded of my true power within. What I’ve always believed! I KNEW, I KNOW my destiny. No one can tell me about me when I AM ME. I know the greatness we are all capable of, so you cannot convince me other wise. I Am blessed that I have never let anyones opinions get in my way, they have only made me stronger and more determined. Not to prove anyone wrong. but to prove that IT’S POSSIBLE AND THEY CAN DO IT TOO.
I left school just before I turned 16, I couldn’t wait to leave so I could follow my dreams. I didn’t believe in anything I was taught, it always felt so wrong to me. I went on a few college courses, I wasn’t confident in myself enough yet to follow my music dreams, so I chose following my fashion dreams. The fashion course was full so I did jewellery, I wasn’t passionate about that, failed the course, so then I saw a music course was opening and I knew that’s what I’ve always wanted the most so I joined.
I got so much from the course, but as I was a teenager that thought she knew everything, I wasn’t humble enough to actually learn what is important to know when you are a musician. I just wanted to perform all of the time, and didn’t want to learn Music Theory etc because it just reminded me of school again, taking exams to test what I’ve always known is my passion and purpose felt wrong. I feel the same way now about the schooling system, however if I was to do it all over again I would have listened and learned absolutely everything to be the greatest I can be. But my head was in the clouds, I was distracted by boys and trying to fit in.
I then quit that course halfway through the second year, and learned Make Up Artistry in Illamasqua, London. I absolutely loved being able to let my creativity loose, and with my interest in fashion I felt make up was a perfect fit to getting into the fashion industry. I also love that Illamasqua spreads the message of being true to yourself, creative, individual and beautiful as you are! The message resonated with me.
However I totally lost my passion for make up because I knew it wasn’t what I truly wanted. I worked for my mum in her successful Permanent Cosmetics business for around 6/7 years. I was so thankful for the job, the pay was great, I was always able to travel and buy what I wanted, which I Am so thankful for. But I never felt passionate, I Am a creative person, and sitting on a reception desk didn’t allow me to be who I truly am. However, everything happens as it should and looking back I know why I wasn’t ready to leave and follow my dreams, the many times I wanted to.
Just before my spiritual awakening in 2016, summer 2015 I started listening to The Secret (a book by Rhonda Byrne about the Universal Law ‘Law of Attraction’ and manifesting. I manifested so many things, it was so magical to see my reality be created by my thoughts, feelings and actions, and actually go WOW, I was thinking about this and now I Am living it! So as I started to truly use my power, my confidence grew to follow my dreams.
I was involved in a music project for around a year and a half. We had plans to tour etc, but something just never fully felt right to me. But I thought, it’s an opportunity and I’d be silly to pass up an opportunity, what’s meant to be will be. So I followed it. I left my job at my mums business in June to pursue my dreams with this music project. Signs kept showing me that it wasn’t right, I knew by the way I felt, my soul was saying no and my head was saying yes. I didn’t feel passionate about what I was singing about, I didn’t FEEL the music. Music is such an important thing for me, it is who I Am, I need to believe in what I Am singing about, and sending the message I wanna send to the world. This is my life, I need to be true to myself. So I quit, and felt a huge weight was lifted. It was an opportunity people would dream of, but I knew i wasn’t being true to myself by following it and I’ve learned that is the most important thing in this life.
ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
Your purpose has to be lived with PASSION. If you’re not passionate about something how can you make other people passionate about it?
Your passions are your gifts, and your purpose is to use your gift to help others.
With my music, I wanna make people feel the way I feel when I listen to my favourite artist. Escapism, connection, emotion, I want my music to make people feel alive. The greats have the greatest music because you can feel it’s from their soul. They are being true to themselves and pouring themselves into the music. That is special. That is MAGIC.
So here I was, no job, no plans. But I never felt better and more sure that I was on my true path. Everything has been flowing since then. You just have to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, and focus on living your dreams EVERYDAY. That’s what brings them to you. What you focus on is what you create.
I was feeling really low one day after coming home from L.A and just wanted to be over there! I was frustrated and just lay in my bed, of course I knew that wouldn’t do anything, but you know when you’re in one of those feeling sorry for yourself moods. The Universe reminded me, you’ve nothing to be down about FOCUS ON YOUR BLESSINGS. Be grateful, you are on your path, you have a home, water, food, a family… more than a lot of people in the world, GET UP AND KEEP GOING!
So I got myself out of bed and went for dinner with my mum. My mum is my soulmate and we help each other so much, we always have messages for each other to help us grow, I Am so blessed, she is my best friend! So she said to me, ‘What else are you passionate about except for music, and you can follow that right now?’
I have ALWAYS wanted to be a fashion designer, but I always thought that would have to come after the music. Not realising, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU WANT WHENEVER YOU WANT, BUT YOU MUST START SOMEWHERE!
My intuition told me to create a jacket for a photoshoot I had for the band I was in a few months prior, and it turned out AMAZING I was so happy with it, but I never actually thought about that being the start of creating clothing.
So when I remembered my jacket, 11.11 EARTH The Movement was born. It was FLOWING, my higher self was sending so many messages, I just knew my vision. 11.11 EARTH is a movement of LOVE, of PEACE, of EXPRESSING YOUR TRUE SELF. I believe loving and believing in yourself is the healing of the world. We each need to love ourselves before we can love others, it starts WITHIN. I see style as the way to express who you are through your clothing.
I want people to wear 11.11 EARTH and feel their greatest self. Feel like MAGIC.SHINE THEIR LIGHT. To bring out your inner child, your creative energy. They are filled with uplifting, empowering, loving messages to make you feel amazing so that then your light radiates out to others.
I Am just so excited and grateful for the flow of my path, when anyone asks me what I do now I say ‘LIVING MY DREAMS’ because it’s true! That is what I do, and if you’re reading this know that I Am not separate from you, I am you and you are me, and we all have infinite possibility, You just need to let go of fear and JUST DO IT!
LET LOVE GUIDE YOU AND NOT FEAR. – Ralph Smart
BOOKS I RECOMMEND
The Secret – Rhonda Byrne
The Miracle Morning – Hal Elrod
Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
The Four Agreement – Don Miguel Ruiz
You Are A Badass – Jen Sincero
FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS, LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE.
LIFE IS HAPPENING NOW. ARE YOU LIVING YOUR DREAMS OR ARE YOU SETTLING?
CHANGE YOUR HABITS, CHANGE YOUR MINDSET, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
I write this blog post as I watch a documentary on one of my biggest inspirations, Jimi Hendrix. I have had a deep love for him since I was young. Since I became my authentic self, the more connected to him I feel, he reminds me of myself. He reminds me to be true to my soul, to not care what anyone thinks, to be the greatest I can be. To just create and be free. He reminds me to be ME.
In my opinion, pop culture and ‘celebrities’ have such a huge influence on what people do, what they wear, what products they buy etc, that people can lose themselves through that, and find themselves wanting to be someone else, because that’s what the media tells them to be, sells to them to be. If dressing like your favourite celebrity or whatever makes you feel good, then do it! But if it’s not truly how you want to express yourself, and it’s only because it’s what they do, then it will be temporary happiness and just a matter of waiting for the next thing they are doing/wearing to imitate them again.
Why be an imitation of someone else when you can be your authentic self?
YOU are the only you there will ever be! BE THE TRUEST, GREATEST VERSION OF YOURSELF. That is how you shine, and that is why the “greats” shine like they do, they are just being themselves! We all have the potential to be truly GREAT.
BEING YOUR GREATEST, TRUEST SELF, IS HOW YOU LIVE YOUR GREATEST LIFE
I have been inspired by clothing and style ever since I can remember. As a child I’d say ‘Does my outfit match?’ before I left the house! I was unafraid to express myself and be myself. I always knew who I was and I always took so much inspiration from music, so many of my looks through my childhood and teens were inspired by the style of music I loved.
As a teenager I had many sketchbooks where I would design and express myself, imagining I had my own clothing line. (I now realise I was manifesting!)
I was always influenced by humans that were in music or fashion in the public eye, because they were doing what I wanted to be doing, inspiring others and creating, doing what they love and sharing it with the world.
I still Am inspired by many but in a different way, I believe in looking to others to remind us of ourselves, to inspire what is within us, not to try and be them, but to be ourselves through their inspiration.
My goal in life is to inspire others to BE THEMSELVES through being true to myself and shining my light. I believe shining your light guides others to their own.
Through my spiritual awakening, I realised you have to unlearn all you were told to be, so that what’s left is who you truly are. Since April 2016 layers of me have been shed, the past has been shed, everything I was told to be by others subconsciously or consciously, I reprogrammed my own mind, I found my soul, I kept finding more and more of my self, AND THERE I WAS.
As I found who I was WITHIN, it was visible through my physical appearance, you can literally see my EVOLVING through how I look. I can see how lost I was, I thought I knew who I was, but the true me was trying to come out, through my loves and the things that made my soul light up. Evolving is a continuous process, everyday is the opportunity to grow and learn.
FOLLOW WHAT MAKES YOUR SOUL LIGHT UP, TO BE YOUR TRUE SELF.
Every picture here reminds me of different stages that were so profound for me in my journey of life. Expressed through my style, that is how I express my spirit. From 2015 to now has been so incredible, I feel like I have experienced a whole lifetime in that time, it is has been filled with so much growth that I have ‘changed’ so many times. I became more and more myself through everything life taught me. 2017 has felt like my whole life, I feel I was truly born in 2017 and I believe I found my truest self from June 2017, that is when I started truly expressing who I Am because I KNOW WHO I AM. It is the most freeing, incredible feeling to be myself. So incredible to know I Am always evolving and becoming, just being MY TRUE SELF to live my TRUE PURPOSE.
I believe being yourself is the healing of the world.
If I were to look at the different things that influence my style…
FANTASY – magic, glitter, space, unicorns, iridescent, colourful… I believe ‘fantasy’ is actually ‘reality’, it is the spirit world that we are made to believe comes from our imagination. I just love spreading MAGIC in this world, colour, fun, inner child!FREE!
ROCK N’ ROLL/PUNK– main influences, Slash and Jimi Hendrix – I Am attracted to their energy and individual styles/ signature looks. The powerful energy and presence is something that helps me feel empowered, strong and sexy! There is no shame in embracing your sexual energy, it can be very powerful if used for YOU. I used to be ashamed of feeling comfortable in my sexual self, the media have completely changed the perspective of sex, but that’s a different story that I will write a post about! I realised my ‘fire’, sexual, extrovert side comes so naturally when I perform, it’s all about balance and using it to help me elevate, feel confident and live my purpose. Chanelling my ‘Slash’ energy is what helped me embrace my badass Goddess within.
90’S – in all aspects grunge, pop, r’n’b, 90’s was the era I was born and lived in as a child, and your inner child is your true self
NATURE – NATURE IS WHO WE ARE. We are one with all, so of course nature influences my style. Also in the aspect of nude skin. Naked is our natural state of being, it is how we arrived onto this planet. It is not a sexual thing, it is our skin, our body. So I am not ashamed to say I love being naked. Not for the attention of men or to be seen sexually, but for the empowerment and connection with myself! NUDITY IS NATURE.
Items that represent me and I always wear are:
Jewels on my face, I wear a jewel in between my eyebrows to represent the ‘Third Eye’ and my awakening that changed my life
Necklaces and crystals, and my baby is my Orgonite Alien Pendant which is not only beautiful and reminds me of my truth, but is also energy protection (created by @orgonised_consciousness on IG)
Chunky Rings, I LOVE rings and usually wear at least two on the one hand, but I wish I had more fingers so I could just wear so so many rings ha! My absolute baby is my ring from The Great Frog which reminds me of a certain time that I learned so many lessons and represented the beginning of a new chapter in my journey.
Biker jackets, I have always loved biker jackets! My clothing movement 11.11 EARTH has started with biker jackets.I just followed my intuition to create a jacket for a photoshoot one day, and then a few months later I had an epiphany that it was time to follow my dreams of designing clothing and then 11.11 Earth was born!
Boots, Of course all my boots are synthetic leather, as I don’t wear animals. I love classic Doc Martens, cowboy boots, and crazy platform boots!
Heavy accessories- one earring, chains, belts, necklaces, rings, I don’t feel dressed until I have an overload of accessories!
I love style. I see it as EXPRESSION. We are what’s within our physical bodies, our spirits, our souls. I believe our ‘style’ is how we show who we are. I Am so attracted to humans who I can see are freely expressing themselves, fearlessly, apologetically. The INDIVIDUALS not the trend followers, the ones who are dressing from their HEARTS not caring whether or not people like it. Wearing what you want to wear, not because it’s fashionable or ‘cool’, but because it’s WHO YOU ARE. There are no limitations in style, wear what makes you feel good!Doesn’t matter if it’s on ‘trend’ or ‘season’ or if celebrities are wearing it or whatever, or even if people will call you crazy for wearing it. If you love it, then DO IT.
Life seems like a roller coaster of ‘ups’ and ‘downs’… ‘bad times’ and ‘good times’.
Why can’t everything just be easy and the good times last?
Everything in life is temporary, the good times don’t last, but neither do the bad!
Why must we suffer?
A lot of the time you will find suffering comes from our MIND. We create our own suffering through the perspective of the experience. If you are identifying an experience as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ you are determining how you feel. A change in perspective can make the ‘dark times’ in our lives the most rewarding times.
As difficult as it feels, the dark times are ESSENTIAL for our time here on Earth. We are here to learn, to evolve, to grow. If everything was easy all of the time, what would be the point of life?
There is no such thing as an ‘easy’ life, EVERYONE experiences hard times no matter what their circumstances. We are all one and equal beyond all of the illusions of separation.
So how do we use these dark times to help us grow instead of feeling like all is lost and giving up?
ACKNOWLEDGE HOW YOU FEEL
The first and most important step to healing is to honour how you feel.
We’ve all been there ‘I’m fine’ ‘Nothing’s wrong’ … although I encourage focusing on the positive and speaking positive words. Denying your feelings is different! It is essential to RELEASE, whether that’s speaking out loud to yourself, speaking to a loved one or writing down how you feel. This takes a huge ‘weight’ from our mind and allows us to move forward to find a solution.
Healing can only happen from WITHIN. Anything outside of yourself will only be temporary to ‘cover up’ how you feel inside. So forget about buying a new handbag, or getting a new boyfriend. If treating yourself lifts your spirits as a form of self love, then definitely do it! But it is not the solution! This is only avoiding facing yourself, when you should come FIRST. Knowledge and love of yourself is essential for life. Don’t avoid it! Get to know and love the beautiful, amazing being that you are!
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
It is so important to be kind to YOURSELF! Stop beating yourself up, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself! This is an essential part of healing, Blaming yourself and negative self talk is the worst thing you can do! You will always be YOU! So be kind to yourself, you listen to your thoughts so make sure they are beautiful, positive and encouraging! Take some time for yourself, have a relaxing bath, make yourself feel good, treat yourself, read a book etc! Whatever makes you FEEL GOOD! Whatever you do, don’t stay in your bed feeling sorry for yourself! Giving yourself love and feeling sorry for yourself are completely different things! As harsh as it sounds literally force yourself to do things that make you happy, as simple as listening to your favourite music, watching your favourite movie, spending time with your best friend! Get into nature, exercise, eat healing foods! (i.e fruits and vegetables) drink lots of water, stay hydrated! RAISE YOUR VIBRATION!
Resisting something and thinking about how much you don’t want it, actually gives it MORE POWER! Research the life changing ‘Law of attraction’ . Switch your focus! You get what you focus on, so focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want! You hold the power to create your reality, and that power is within your attention, change your perspective to change your life. Gratitude is the best way to change your energy, focus on what you are thankful for, we all have something no matter how ‘small’ it may seem, just be grateful you are breathing! Feel gratitude for every bit of your life. ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. Life is about balance and contrast will always exist, so think of the contrast as showing you what you don’t want, then you can give more energy to what you do want!
LOOK FOR THE LESSON
In my experience since my spiritual awakening, I have had many times of darkness. I now realise these times of darkness and depression are healing times that allow me to EVOLVE. Every time I have felt low and felt like giving up I have experienced breakthroughs that have allowed me to move forward. I have had so many of these experiences that I look at myself over the months and truly see how much I’ve evolved. Every time I heal, I get closer to my truest and greatest selfin order to live my true life purpose.
Take a step back and try to understand what you are being taught from this experience. What feelings are coming up for you that don’t feel good?
Even write down how you feel so that you can look at it and realise what needs healing. Most of the time it leads back to self love! A book I highly recommend is called ‘The Mastery of Love’ by Don Miguel Ruiz. It truly helped me love myself and stop looking outside of myself for love or approval and understand life more.
Now that I realise what’s happening it’s like being in a video game and picking up the clues to get to the next level. My ‘higher self’ tells me the message and then its up to ME to ACT on it! No action, no result! Sometimes I go through the same lessons over and over until I take action on them and move forward. You will find this happening through life, we will be sent the same lesson in many different ways until we learn.
It can feel so tempting and ‘comfortable’ to stay in that dark place and feel sorry for yourself, but you MUST keep moving FORWARD! Do things that make you happy! Push yourself through to LEARN and that’s when you’ll get your breakthrough and BAM! You’ve evolved! And you’ll keep leaning and growing, and that’s the beautiful thing about life. We can never stop GROWING!
I hope this post helps you! Here are some books and speakers I recommend for inspiration and motivation:
‘The Mastery of Love’ by Don Miguel Ruiz
‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz
‘The Power of Now’ by Eckhart Tolle
YOU GOT THIS! KEEP GOING! I BELIEVE IN YOU! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!